I'm here because Fair Play changed my life, and I believe that Fair Play can change your life too.
Sandi Konta, MSW
Certified Fair Play Facilitator
When I look at this photo, I see a stressed-out, resentful woman still trying very hard to attain "super mom" status. She was just beginning to remember who she is.
My Fair Play Story
I first found Fair Play because I needed help.
As the default parent of two young kids and the person who took on the bulk of the household chores, I was drowning. My health was suffering. I felt like I was failing at work, as a mom, and at home.
There was no space in my thoughts, or my life, for me.
My partner and I both grew up watching our parents embody very traditional gender roles. Without realizing it, we followed suit...almost like zombies.
Then, one day, I woke up.
I saw how I was complicit in my own oppression and was making decisions that perpetuated the inequities in my household.
I became obsessed with finding a solution and got to work making spreadsheets and lists.
And then, I hit a brick wall. I could not figure out how to share the mental load.
Fair Play was my answer. We now have a shared vocabulary for talking about domestic life and a system for re-distributing household chores. He feels more ownership and I feel less like a nag. We both have more time to pursue what lights us up.
While Fair Play was not an overnight fix, I started feeling relief quickly. Our success inspired me to become a Fair Play Facilitator.
Who am I?
I am here because I believe deeply in the power we each have to transform our thoughts and our lives.
I believe that my liberation is tied to your liberation and to the liberation of all people. I am a intersectional feminist who is shedding the last remnants of white feminism.
I spend a lot of my time thinking about societal conditioning and how systems of oppression affect our thoughts, relationships, communities, and world. I believe that dismantling our internalized oppression is one of the keys to finding freedom in our lives.
Activism feeds me. It is also where I find my people.
Little feels better to me than putting my hands in the dirt and growing things. Our garden keeps getting bigger and bigger but I will always feel like a beginner. I like that feeling.
I just started a tea practice, which feels sacred and nurturing.
I sometimes drive near the ocean, open the window to smell the salty air, and then drive away. I can't get enough of that smell.
I am a Certified Fair Play Facilitator and I am currently in the Wayfinder Life Coach Training created by Martha Beck.
Professionally, my background is rooted in community organizing, training, marketing, development, and facilitation.
In my element